Achieve orgasm faster than her partner is not rare, do not blame you for it. Fortunately, most people who tend to enjoy fast can learn to last longer in bed. Physical exercise and lifestyle changes can help you better control yourself. There are also many other techniques that will allow you to delay your orgasm during a relationship.
You could also try products and medicines specifically designed for this purpose. If your partner is enjoying too fast, try to approach the problem as if it concerns you both. Avoid blaming him and make him understand that you want to work together to develop a better physical and emotional intimacy.
Change your lifestyle
- 1 Change your lifestyle
- 2 Try different techniques during sex for lasting longer in bed
- 3 Use products and medicines for last longer
- 4 Helping your partner to stay longer
Relax and encourage yourself.
Anxiety and lack of confidence will have a very bad impact on your mind. So try to stay optimistic. Addressing sexuality with confidence, respect and a positive attitude could make all the difference for you and your partner.
Instead of dwelling on negative thoughts about your sexual performance, say “John, enjoying fast is not unusual and you should not blame yourself for so little. You can overcome this problem! ”
Addressing yourself by your name could be more effective when you try to motivate yourself.
Work to hold longer while masturbating.
By trying to enjoy as quickly as possible when you masturbate, you will train your body to reach orgasm very quickly. Masturbating several times a week and a few hours before intercourse may help you enjoy less quickly, especially if you have been training longer when you masturbate
Do pelvic floor exercises.
Working the muscles that control ejaculation may help you stay longer. To identify these muscles, stop urinating in the middle and contract the muscles that prevent you from releasing a fart. To make them work, contract them for 3 seconds, release them for 3 seconds, then repeat 5 to 10 times.
At first, it may be easier to do these exercises lying down or sitting, but then try to make them stand up as well. As you strengthen these muscles, try doing 3 sets of 10 repetitions a day.
Try to contract only the muscles that help to stop urinating or letting go of a fart. Do not contract your buttocks and thighs.
While doing these exercises, breathe normally and avoid holding your breath.
Reduce your use of alcohol and other drugs.
Alcohol and other substances can promote premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and other sexual problems. Avoid using alcohol or drugs before intercourse and try to limit your overall use as much as possible.
Have a regular sexual partner.
If you are used to having a relationship with no tomorrow, try to maintain a stable relationship. Being close to your partner could help you be more comfortable and safer during sex. When you’re comfortable with someone, it’s much easier to have an open conversation about improving your sex life
Try different techniques during sex for lasting longer in bed
Start by stimulating your partner.
Focus all your attention on your partner, without stimulating yourself and without (or) letting touch your private parts. This will synchronize your level of excitement and enjoy at the same time.
Make movements slower.
Taking your time could help you hold on longer. Try to focus on the trip rather than the destination. See a sexual relationship as a sensual dance, rather than a series of quick movements.
Try new positions.
Changing your position will help you refocus your focus and reset your excitement. Plus, trying new positions could teach your body how to get out of your usual routine.
Moreover, if a position always seems to lead you to orgasm, keep it for the end.
Slow down when you feel like you are about to enjoy.
By slowing your breathing when you feel that you are approaching orgasm, you will block the reflex of orgasm. Inhale slowly and deeply, inflating your belly. Hold your breath for 2 to 3 seconds, then slowly exhale.
Continue to breathe slowly until you are no longer on the verge of enjoying.
Think of something else.
When you feel that you are going to enjoy, try to distract yourself by thinking of something that has nothing to do with sex, be it work, sports, a TV show or your studies. By momentarily diverting your attention, you will relax and slow down the action.
Try not to think of anything else throughout the report. You will still need to be present and focus on the pleasure of your partner.
Try to take breaks.
The “stop & start” method consists in withdrawing from your partner when you feel that you are going to enjoy. Pause for about 30 seconds, then resume the report. Repeat this technique until both you and your partner are ready to enjoy.
You can also breathe deeply and think of something else when you take a break.
Try the squeeze method.
To use this technique, remove yourself from your partner when you feel close to orgasm. You (or your partner) will then gently squeeze the part of your penis where the underside of the glans joins the penis. Press for a few seconds, then wait about 30 seconds before resuming the report.
Do not press too hard and do not use this method if you find it painful or uncomfortable.
Use products and medicines for last longer
Wear a thicker condom.
Look for pharmacy condoms specifically designed to delay orgasm. These are thicker, and some brands also contain anesthetic agents that temporarily reduce the sensitivity of the penis.
Use a desensitizing lubricant.
You can find topical desensitizing products on the Internet or in drugstore. These are available as cream, spray and wipes and should usually be applied 10 to 15 minutes before intercourse.
To avoid reducing the sensitivity of your partner, wear a condom when using a topical desensitizing product.
Try a drug.
If no other solution seems to be working, ask your doctor or pharmacist if an oral medication might help you. Taking a low dose of SSRI a few hours before a report could help delay your orgasm.
If you suffer from both erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation, a drug for erectile dysfunction could solve both problems at once
Helping your partner to stay longer
Address the subject as a common problem.
Sexual performance can be a sensitive subject. Address the subject by telling your partner that you appreciate him and the intimacy you share. Tell him that you do not consider it a problem that he should solve alone. Tell him rather that you would like to work to improve your sex life together.
Avoid designating a culprit.
Try to be optimistic and constructive, instead of making your partner feel that there is something wrong with him.
Be open and patient with the new techniques.
Ask your partner, what could work, according to him. Do your best to keep the conversation honest and without pressure. Be patient, try new techniques and see what works best for you and your partner.
Think of trying a couple therapy.
Sexual problems can put a lot of pressure on a relationship. If it is useful to consider the problem as a common problem, you will also need to be honest about how you feel, including your frustration. Couple therapy can help you and your partner analyze complex emotions and identify problems that may interfere with your sex life.
When proposing to your partner to see a professional, try not to give negative connotation to your proposal. You may say “we both feel various strong emotions and I think a psychologist could bring us an external point of view. It would be better to take stock of our feelings, instead of letting off steam one on the other.